I’m not here to tell you that you have to like any ship or even change whatever set of beliefs you have that makes you think that a certain ship is horrible. If you hate something or think it’s disgusting, that’s fine, that’s your business.
What I do want to do is ask you to just leave the people that ship the things you don’t like alone. Completely.
Someone is going to end up dead. I’m not saying this to be dramatic. There have been so many suicidal posts, that are increasing in frequency, and one of these times it is going to happen.
Do you really want someone to die because you don’t like what fictional characters they ship?
Read that sentence again. Read it a few times, out loud, until you realize just how absolutely ridiculous it sounds.
No matter how much you hate a fictional pairing, people are still going to ship it. People will still write fanfiction and make fanart and post it on Tumblr and elsewhere.
No amount of complaining, tag spamming, hateful anons or call out posts will ever stop all of it.
What you will do, is you’ll harass someone past their breaking point and someone who can’t take the incessant bullying and the toxic call out culture you are participating in is going to end their own life.
Look at how many teens have killed themselves over bullying.
You are bullying people. You are going to push someone at the wrong time and no amount of apologies, of saying “but I’m a mentally ill minor” or anything else is going to give that person their life back. Or take away the guilt you’re going to have hanging on your shoulders or the rest of your life if you don’t re-evaluate how you are treating people.
And if you think anyone deserves to die over any of this, you are pretty much the worst of the worst and have zero moral high ground or authority to be preaching at anyone.
Stop making call out posts. Stay out of the ship tags. Block users that produce or post content you don’t like or that isn’t properly tagged. Use blacklisting functions. Do not search tags while you are on mobile. Understand that there are millions of us with ptsd or that are trauma survivors that have various triggers and it is impossible to completely avoid them 100% of the time and it is something that, while it feels unfair, is something we just have to deal with.
I get triggered, too. I know what it’s like, I’ve been living with it for a very, very long time. But, I understand I cannot eliminate my triggers completely from the world. I can do what is within my power to avoid them, but sometimes everything I do just won’t be enough. It’s something I’ve had to accept. And I’ve had to accept that even though certain things trigger me, it doesn’t give me a right to hurt anyone else, particularly people that are doing things that are well within their rights to do – no matter how disgusting or problematic I think it is.
I want you to seriously consider how you are treating other people and how much these attacks hurt them. They don’t ship to hurt you. They ship for whatever their reasons are – to enjoy something, to cope, etc. But, their shipping has nothing to do with YOU personally. You are taking something they are doing that isn’t about you, no matter how much you try to make it so, and using it as a weak excuse to harass people. It’s not okay.
When you make call out posts, when you send hate anons, you are attacking an individual. Not an idea or a concept, but a person. Someone with feelings, that might be dealing with a slew of issues you have no idea about.
Please stop targeting shippers before this gets to a point where no amount of apologies can ever fix it.
There is a difference between attacking an idea and attacking a person. Please try and understand that.
Please. Yes. It’s reasonable to avoid what you don’t like. Purposely spending time on it and writing about it seems somewhat counterproductive to me. And. It has a great potential up actually ending up poisoning the joy for a great lot of people.
can you not?
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