Dets, you know something? Somehow I feel like you’re kind of the ultimate safe place in the Tolkien fandom. Like, you’re so nice to people, you show so much support and appreciation for your fans. And even if you disagree with someone, I don’t recall ever seeing you be rude, you just state your opinion in very reasonable and logical terms. It might sound bad, but that is really quite rare here from what I’ve observed. (Also you are the ONLY Tumblr user I send asks to without any hesitation.) <3

Ahhh omfg Nonnie. This ask made me gasp and breathe WAY too fast, and then pace around the room, and make a cup of tea, and then I let it go cold. I have written out seven answers so far… some flippant and funny, some deadly serious (AND WAY TOO PERSONAL), and idk I am at a loss, seriously. I am deeply touched, and very grateful to you for telling me this. Thank you so much. 

I try? I try, all the time, I really do. I am just a regular person though, so I reaaaaally don’t

want or

deserve a pedestal. I’m just another screwed-up person struggling to improve herself and her understanding of a very screwed-up world. I am not perfect: I have fucked up in the past, I have said the wrong thing, I have been scared and angry and hurt, and I have come to the end of my patience. I’ve said things that make me curl up around my pillow when I remember them, moaning, ‘ohhh nooooo aaargh make it stoooopppp’

I do try to state my true opinion, as openly and logically as I can at the time – though only when it’s appropriate, will not harm, and/or if it is asked for – and GOD I am always so careful about it. So so so careful. I watch my every word, I don’t ever lie, or even use anon settings. That shit comes back to bite! 

Heh, I disagree with people, all the time! Some of them are my friends, though, and they totally disagree with me too, so that’s fair 😀 What I don’t have time for is people who attack, threaten, insult and/or harass others over a petty disagreement. We all deserve safety and respect.

I am really glad I am safe for you, Nonnie, and I hope you always feel comfortable asking me stuff, because I am always so! incredibly!! honoured!!! to receive them. ALWAYS.

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