Listen, friends. No matter how much research you do, or how many
times you parse the original source material, or how convincingly you
argue your particular viewpoint, you are not the arbiter of all things related to your fandom.
The
only ones who can say they know everything there is to know about any
given piece of media are the original creators. (Or, in the case of RPF,
the individuals themselves.) Literally everything else is derivative.
That
means that no matter how plausible you think your idea sounds, and even
taking into account the culture/time period/authorial notes/exact
position of the moon on the day the original content was published, you
are still only speculating, and filtering your perceptions through your
own experiences and biases. If you happen to be gifted with the ability
to convey information clearly though writing, your interpretations are
no more valid by virtue of being framed articulately.
In short, don’t be a jerk about other people’s fandom headcanons. If you feel that you must
comment on something that didn’t explicitly request con-crit, consider
instead discussing it in private with like-minded friends instead of
inflicting your unasked-for “corrections” on someone who’s just enjoying
fandom in their own way.
We’re all playing in the same sandbox. Try not to be the one who shits
in it.
You’re not obliged to tell somebody you don’t like what they made. Like, really. If you read a fic and don’t like it, you don’t have to go and comment that you didn’t like it. Literally nobody likes reading that type of comments.
If you wanna correct the author on something, be fucking nice when doing it. And sometimes, it’s actually possible you’re wrong with your correction, that happens too. Don’t give criticism unless you’re asked for it. Just, don’t. It’s shitty as fuck to share something with somebody and for them to start telling you how to fix this and that when you did not fucking ask for it.
Oh and if it’s your friend sharing something they’ve made with you be it fic or drawing or edit or whatever, for fucks sake, be nice to them, say you like it, hell, exaggerate if you have to, but fucking praise them, they are your friend, they deserve to feel nice
Let’s talk about BrendaHoward for a sec because I feel like all of the people shouting that “het”-partnered bisexuals don’t belong at Pride are missing a good chunk of their Pride history.
Brenda was:
A bisexual, polyamorous woman and activist
In a “het” relationship with partner Larry Nelson
Known as the Mother of Pride for her work in organizing the first LGBT Pride events
A participant in the Stonewall Riots
An active member of the Gay Liberation Front, Gay Activists Alliance, Coalition for Lesbian and Gay Rights, BiPAC, and BiNET USA, among others
Co-founder of the New York Area Bisexual Network
Founder of the first Alcoholics Anonymous chapter for bisexuals
An incredibly important figure in the LGBT community, who paved the way for Pride and LGBT activism as we know it today
“Het”-partnered bisexuals don’t just belong at Pride, they were integral to its creation.
(Bonus facts: Brenda was also Jewish, a sex worker, and an outspoken feminist. I highly recommend learning about her because she was seriously an amazing woman.)
Hey Nonnie! Hope you’re having a great day (or night, if you’re a northern-hemisphere-type 🙂
Nah, it’s not a secret! ‘determamfidd’ is a mishmash word, made up of bits and pieces of others. One bit is a re-spelling of my real name, another is the nickname my sister gave me when we were small, and all of it is fitted into the word ‘determination’.
It’s a quality I think I need more of, and I want to encourage it in myself.
But mostly folks just call me ‘Dets’ – and I like it just as much as my usual name now!
I’m trying to decide whether he’d try to use the ring himself, or if he’d scoff and consider it inferior workmanship, therefore being the only person TOO ambitious for the ring to control
Aw Yiss 