Nonnie, you matter. You matter. YOU MATTER.
If I were to hazard a guess, I’d say that this is totally depression talking, Nonnie. It’s not all crying – often it is a blankness, a nothingness, a meaninglessness… a sense of just drifting in time and space while life happens to everyone else. A “void”. This is EXACTLY the way my mental script plays out, right before I go into ‘hibernation mode’ and withdraw from the world.
I get off the internet. I spend time with my family and friends, people who know ALL of me and truly care about me. I see a professional therapist. I am on medication, and probably will be for the rest of my life. I take on projects that I enjoy, such as composing, or sewing. I work with my students, teaching them to do a thing I love (music and singing). That’s how I manage. And sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t.
I don’t know how to deal with your family situation, I am so sorry. But I am proud of you. You have a capacity for love that is simply wonderful and unique, and I hope you can feel comfortable with it one day soon – maybe even joy and pride yourself.
I feel that your friends would most likely want to know that you are feeling so lost. Yeah, they have their own lives – but you are their FRIEND, and you matter to them. They’ll make as much space and time for you as they can, BECAUSE YOU ARE THEIR FRIEND AND YOU MATTER TO THEM.
I feel as though you should see a professional for some help also. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to stretch your hands out to people, PLEASE.
You matter, Nonnie. And you deserve care and friendship and companionship. You deserve to feel as though you are a part of the world and not just drifting through it. You deserve acceptance and love. You are a person, a wonderful real living complicated fabulous human person, right here and now, and you MATTER.