The argument could be made,if we go by Jackson movies canon, that Mirkwood elves are much more lax on gender roles then other elves and men, since they seem to allow women to serve in the military or at the very least the Elven guard something we don’t really see other elves and men doing.

Urgh, this one is subject to some discussion, Nonnie! I just remembered this essay, and the fab blog askmiddleearth has some analysis here as well. 

I seem to remember too that there was some discussion at the time about Elf women fighting at Helm’s Deep in the films (not the Arwen deleted stuff, but that some of the Lothlorien Elves/extras etc were of the Lady persuasion). I could be wrong, it was a while ago!

but! Tolkien specifically says this: There are, however, no matters which among the Eldar only a ner can think or do, or others which only a nis is concerned. So anyone can p much do anything, and did, if their name was Luthien. 

Daeris and Dweris are probably such bros. Like, they’re both kick-ass fighters who married into the line of Durin. They both take very little shit. And the Azanulbizar connection! They spar, and then go and sit in a quiet corner with a beer. (Also the similar name thing)

I have a private little headcanon about their names actually… that people keep mixing them up. (poking a little fun at myself for all the similar-sounding names also, heheheheh) like, beginning a sentence with “Dwer- I mean Daer- um. Sorry, Daeris.” 

this is not at all inspired by my nanna’s old habit of beginning the name of every single one of her grandchildren before she gets to your name, no sirree “An-, uh, K- no, J… Ahhh, Sa-, uh, Ge…”

Dweris just stares them down. She has a mighty stare. Daeris waits patiently – and holds a big sword. 

Frerinith is really the only not salty-natured person in his family. He’s a little sugar donut in a box of salted nuts.

AWWW c’mon Nonnie! they’re all a mix of both sweet and salt! Frerinith is a bossypants and can throw epic tantrums when he doesn’t get his way, after all (yellooooo, toddlers). Wee Thorin is the softest soft on the inside, behind all the sighs and eyerolls. Balinith is a sensitive little soul, and sees bloody near everything. he’s the first to notice when someone is low. Orla is the warmest-hearted woman, god, is she ever. That cool, stern exterior is just that: exterior. And Dwalin… well. 

Frerinith is the most outwardly sunny, certainly! Happy chirpy lil thing.

Story time: I found Sansûkh when it had five chapters then I lost it along with the rest of the bookmarks on my laptop. I also forgot what it was called. By the time I found it again it had 15 chapters and I made an ao3 account so I wouldn’t lose it again because it’s so good. Then I made my sister read it and since then whoever notices an update first screeches it to the other via text message and it’s been a great bonding experience. Also I’m in the choir for the podfic. In short: thank you

oh my goshssjlhdgsljh

thank you, Nonnie. And all my love and deep, deep gratitude to your sister as well.

Thank you both. 

I have been avoiding reading sansukh BC I don’t like catching up to the fic writer. It’s hell. But I rewatched Lord of the Rings and now I have sansukh open again and I’m gonna let u know your perfect fic is the exception to my one rule.

Yikes, yeah, I know how hard it is when you get to the end of what is published of a WIP and screech ‘IS THAT IT’

and I am one of the worst when it comes to that, I know, I know, I am eternally sorry and anxious about that

still, I am HUGELY thankful and very very happy that you like the story so much that you’re willing to brave my annoyingly molasses-slow updates, oh my god, thank you so so so much!