idk why u used so many words to say “i hate bi people” when the 4 i just used work fine
this ask is unfortunate lmfao dont yall ever get tired of just copying the same bullshit over and over in order to try and promote biphobia within the l/g community and vise versa…like…we don’t hold privilege over each other when will that argument die!!! is a couple who looks like a man and a woman less likely to be attacked than a couple who looks like two men or two women?? yes of course but in stating that bi people in “het passing” (which is a gross term btw but ok) relationships hold actual privilege over lesbians and gay men ur also throwing non binary and trans people under the bus. a trans woman, even a straight trans woman, will never hold privilege over a gay cis man!!! can yall honestly just like stop sucking ur own asses for one (1) mfing moment like honestly are u capable of just,,,,hitting that little red x at the top of the screen and going outside? talking to someone in a non-virtual setting? have u ever even been to a physical queer space in real time lmao?? have u ever seen a bi person face-to-face? are we just these hypothetical creatures that yall don’t actually know that much about, but u have heard that we like to wave our nasty bisexuality in ur face a lot and talk about how we just love ending up with the opposite sex!! u have heard all about our “bi privilege” and so u have just taken it upon urselves to make sure we are aware of all the ways in which we are less queer + more straight than yall!
not to mention “bihets” like??? even if u were TRYING to seem like u don’t hate “”””all”””” bi people, u fucking failed dude lol goodnight thanks for playing but u didn’t land the shot. i can’t believe u made me read this with my own two eyes lmao i need leyesol to wash em out with
so lets just talk about bi privilege for a sec just like sit down and get ready bbygirl because u managed to hit me on a day where i have the time to work through this trash ask one moldy letter at a time. like i get the confusion but when i say my blog is garbage i don’t mean it in the literal sense and it’s not an invitation for u to flush ur soiled tampons down into my inbox
bi privilege is being made aware that our status as bi relies on the gender of our partner, and that depending on who we choose to fuck or date, our sexuality is always going to be erased by the people around us. bi privilege is being treated like bisexuality is temporary, and we’re bound to “pick a side eventually”–because falling in love and deciding to enter a faithful monogamous relationship with someone completely overrides the fact that we are still and always will be bi
bi privilege is being talked down to about what “bi” really means, by people who aren’t even bi. it means being accepted only under the conditions that we throw out the smaller parts of our own community–non binary bi people, trans bi people, ace bi people, aro bi people–so that we can rest easy knowing that the gatekeepers aren’t coming for us (yet)
bi privilege is not being considered acceptable unless we’re “gay enough” (read: dating someone of the same gender, so good luck if ur nb) for u, but the second a bi person jokingly calls themselves gay, yall lose ur goddamned minds because apparently a bi person calling themselves gay is a queer nuclear apocalypse (but yall can call us “bihet” and “basically straight” all day long ok sure jan)
bi privilege is having to dismantle the “we’re just gonna cheat on u” and “we’re just experimenting” and “we’re just looking for attention” and “we’re just confused” and “we’re going to suddenly wake up one day and realize that we miss guys/girls” stereotypes before we can be deemed “dateable” by straight OR gay people
bi privilege is having self-identified bisexuals constantly erased as gay or straight, both within and outside of the lgbta+ community (yes i am talking about david bowie and freddie mercury and angelina jolie and halsey). bi privilege is having bisexual characters dropped the minute they aren’t in a same-sex relationship, and are “more visibly representative of the entire lgbta+ community”–because bi characters can never just be for bi folks (yes i am talking about clarke griffin and sara lance and ravi roy)
by the way, u didn’t mention in ur ask but i’m assuming this hatred of bi people doesn’t stop at just those in “het passing” relationships, and continues to encompass closeted bi people, questioning bi people, and bi people who aren’t in a relationship at all, so that ur left with the comfortable (if purposefully minuscule) crowd of “acceptable” bi people: strictly male or female (no enbys allowed) bi people in strictly m/m or f/f relationships. and like, i know this might be shocking because i am technically acceptable by those standards, but that’s complete horse shit and yall know it. at this point i’m half convinced u just like looking stupid. maybe it’s a kink
u know what’s unfortunate? the fact that u would rather take the time it takes to send me this than learn about bi people, who make up almost the majority of ur community, but i guess u just can’t be assed to care about us unless we “pick the right side”
u know what’s unfortunate? the fact that nothing from my answer is meant to imply that gay men and women don’t face their own myriad of issues both within and outside of the lgbta+ community (because they certainly do) but i know the biphobes out there are incapable of seeing literally anything written by a bi person that doesn’t explicitly condemn “het” relationships without thinking it’s bi code for “hi hate gay people”, and so i’m gonna end up with a litany of comments about how i’m homophobic because i’m not willing to swallow ur diatribe of biphobic rhetoric like a cheap blow job, thanks for that
honestly it’s like if i don’t consistently post 24/7/365 (366 on leap year) about how much i hate those gross male men people and how unfortunate it is that i’ve ever even looked at a boy and how i have nightmares about possibly holding a gross boy man hand in the future then yall rush to accuse me of being a “bihet” or a “fake bi” or a lesbophobe or whatever
and that’s not to mention the fact that when i say i’m asexual yall about have an aneurism because–ASEXUALITY IS JUST INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA and don’t i know that i actually DO want to ride my gf’s face deep down inside i just secretly hate girls including myself too damn much howsad.gif
u know what’s unfortunate? the fact that yall are more concerned with those nasty “bihets” than the biphobia and transphobia and aphobia and racism running rampant within yalls community. and yall would rather do more to widen the gap between the mga and l/g communities than to close it, and yall would rather try and pit bi people against each other based on who we date and sleep with than support us (unless, apparently, we’re “gay enough” for u). sort out ur fucking priorities m8, they make u look like a tool
*STANDING OVATION*
oh and also I quickly wanna add – Brenda Howard, the Mother of Pride, was an activist and a proud bisexual woman in a relationship with a man. Organised the very first Pride March. I’ll quote from that piece I just linked: We march today because a bisexual woman marched then.
Riiiight, fucknuckle, a real ‘drain on the community’.
know your damn history before you decide to be a POS.
http://www.biresource.net/BRC_Brochure_2010.pdf (Bisexual Resource Center: USA) “The BRC uses bisexual as an umbrella term for people who recognize and honor their potential for sexual and emotional attraction to more than one gender. We celebrate and affirm the diversity of identity and expression regardless of labels.”
http://bisexual.org/am-i-bi/ (American Institute of Bisexuality) “A bi person has the capacity for romantic and/or sexual attraction to more than one gender.”
http://www.bisexualindex.org.uk/index.php/AmIBisexual (Bisexual Index: UK) “This is how we define it: A bisexual is someone who is attracted to more than one gender. You might care about the gender of your partner a lot, a little, or not at all – but their gender doesn’t prevent you from being attracted to them.”
http://binetusa.blogspot.com/2014/03/binet-usa-bisexual-media-guide.html (BiNet USA) “Bisexual – A person whose enduring physical, romantic and/or emotional attraction is to other people of various sexes and/or gender identities. Individuals may experience this attraction in differing ways and degrees over their lifetime.”
http://www.torontobinet.org/bi-culture.html (Toronto Bisexual Network) “Bisexuality is the potential to feel attracted to and to engage in sexual and/or romantic relationships with people of any sex or gender.”
“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”
“Bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders, not necessarily to the same extent, not necessarily in the same way, not necessarily at the same time.”
“bisexuality is, broadly speaking, the attraction to two or more genders. bisexuality is not inherently or transphobic or exclusive of non binary genders—note that there are both binary and non-binary trans people who identify as bisexual. it is possible for bisexuals to be attracted to be attracted to anywhere from two to an infinite number of genders. many times, bisexuals will define their own sexuality as the attraction to both similar and different genders (which encompasses all genders). however, it is important to remember that bisexuals can be attracted to multiple genders without being attracted to people of their own gender. for example, an agender bi person may be attracted to women, bigender, and genderfluid people, or a bi woman might be attracted to men and agender people…..”
“bisexual: the (sexual) attraction to two or more genders. sometimes defined as the attraction to same + different genders; however, this is not true of all bisexuals.”
“Bisexuals have been defining bisexuality as the attraction to two or more/same and other for decades. This isn’t some made-up tumblr joke. Words change meaning. Prefixes change meanings. We didn’t even give ourselves the term bisexual to begin with, doctors did.”
“bisexual- sexually attracted to your same/similar gender and other gender(s), OR sexually attracted to 2 or more genders. Some bisexuals feel that they experience different kinds or degrees of attraction to different genders/gender presentations.”
“Bi: attracted to two or more genders. Some people will define it as “attracted to similar and different genders,” but this is slightly less inclusive than the above definition. I’m of the mind that “similar and different” evolved to satisfy bi=2 prescriptivists, but they are insatiable and forever gross.”
“…being bi does not reinforce the gender binary. And some bi people are only attracted to men and women–and that’s ok! However, bi is not defined as the attraction to men and women, or two genders. It can be for an individual, but not for our entire community. That definition is not only false, but harmful. (This is not to imply that bi people can’t be transphobic!)
This also means that you don’t have to be sexually attracted to people to be bi. There are so many different kinds of attraction, and to just focus on bisexuality would be excluding a lot of people (e.g. being biromantic).”
“Bisexuality is not half gay and half straight. Bisexuality is not in between gay and straight. Bisexuality is not gay when dating the same gender and straight when dating a different gender. Bisexuality is not gay-ish or straight-ish.
Bisexuality is its own fully independent self-contained complete orientation.”
“We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.
Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.
Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.
We are angered by those who refuse to accept our existence; our issues; our contributions; our alliances; our voice. It is time for the bisexual voice to be heard“
”Defining bisexuality, just like defining any identity label, can be complicated and controversial. My definition of the label “bisexual” is informed by the work of The Bisexual Organizing Project. It includes people who use labels such as “bisexual,” “non-monosexual,” “persexual,” “omnisexual,” “ambisexual,” “pansexual,” “queer” or any other term that people use to identify themselves as individuals who are emotionally, romantically or physically attracted to people of more than one sex, gender or gender identity. I also recognize that not everyone chooses to adopt a label to describe their sexual orientation, and I also include non-labeling people who see themselves as part of a queer, non-monosexual or bisexual community under my definition of “bisexual.”“
Reasons why the prefix/etymology argument is not a very good one against “bi = attraction to 2 or more”
I’m angry about it because of HOW Brian Michael Bendis went about writing it. Look at those pages. NOWHERE does Bobby himself reveal his own sexuality. Jean is the one telling him. When he denies it, Jean tells him “I’m psychic, I can read your thoughts.” Just because you can read someone’s thoughts, Jean Grey, doesn’t mean you should read them or that you should talk about their inner thoughts without their permission. They’re inner thoughts for a god damn reason.
Don’t even get me started on how biphobic that last panel is. Not everyone is bi.
ah that is good to know – I only reblogged that knowing the general fandom consensus (of ten years ago, blahhh). Thank you for letting me know. That is indeed shitty.
Aw Yiss 