heatherverde:

thequeerpoc:

littlethousand:

chellychuu:

princess-peachie:

cesoirvert:

cannibal-rainbow:

Of course just one of these flags (like 1 or 4) does not make anyone immediately an abuser but every flag can be used as a manipulation tactic.

I personally would add

• They move too fast. They get very close to you in a short time. If you express discomfort with the pace of your relationship’s progression or try to withdraw, they redouble their efforts to be close to you. They may suddenly have a crisis and insist that only you can help them. Or they may make grand, romantic gestures that are too expensive, ostentatious, or intimate for your current relationship stage.
• They isolate you. They dislike your friends and family and encourage you to reduce contact with loved ones. They may also extend the isolation and try to keep you from socializing with coworkers or neighbors. They might even try to keep you from making small talk with strangers on the street or random passersby. Everyone you like, they hate. They may also try to push you together with their own friends, especially any of their friends who you don’t get along with.

GEEZ GEEZ GEEZ this is so accurate.

look out for these signs! i know it’s easy to ignore these things when you’re in love, but please be careful!

this can happen in romantic relationships but also friendships and family relationships. trust your gut.

^A lot of these signs applied to a friendship I had when I was in the third grade. I only realized how manipulative and controlling it was years later.

Also in addition to making you compromise your values: 

• They don’t value your opinion as equal to their’s.
  
• They think of your facts as bullshit even though they might not present any facts to support their opinion.
  
• They try to lure you into things that are against your values without justifying it well.
  
• They think of your experiences as inferior to their’s.

This one guy is clearly interested of me and my not single friend but constantly says that our facts are not true and shows signs of all of those flags all the time. All we can do is to try to realize that that person is not good for us and that they are trying to manipulate us. I’m very caring person but I’ve justified me leaving him out / not caring of him by him being dangerous to my mental health and my friends mental health.