Tag: det’s dwarfling

Nope, I’m that anon. Your fans are so rabid in your defense that you think anything that isn’t glowing praise is hate. There’s a culture of popular fics not being allowed to get criticism because fans think it’s a personal attack. Anyone who doesn’t think your fic is God’s gift to Tolkien fandom gets crapped on because you never accepted any criticism.

Hmmmm. 

Here they are again. 

Apparently I am now responsible for the actions of others, too. Love that. 

Actually, I do accept criticism – if it’s legitimate. If it is not, I don’t. I freely admit when I don’t know something. I look stuff up. I correct my mistakes, when they’re kindly pointed out to me. I’m happy to be wrong. I’m just a human being, and this is my hobby. I am not being paid to do this, and so I have no obligation to listen to people who think I am ‘doing it wrong’. As though you can actually do fandom wrong. I would still be thinking up headcanons and diving headlong into research even if Sansukh had three kudos to its name. This is something I like doing, for me. 

(Also, it might here be mentioned – I don’t like my own writing on the best of days. I think it is occasionally too flowery, sometimes dragging. I am a horrible critic of a thing I do for my own enjoyment. You may wish to remember that, the next time you vomit out the accusation that everybody thinks Sansukh is ‘God’s Gift’.)

There is no criticism in your message above – nothing constructive. Nothing about the fic at all. Nothing about the writing, or characterisation, nothing about grammar or spelling. Nothing that is useful to me. Nothing. Only complaints that my fic is too popular, and that I am somehow (magically?) puppeteering everyone to fawn over it. 

Therefore from the message above I can only assume that you’re auditioning for the role of whining infant. I’m afraid that I already have a sad baby in my life (still teething, URGH), and so…

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sliceofmooncake replied to your post: anonymous asked:Do you have any n…

Dear Dets, I’m not familiar with a ‘tied tongue’, would you mind elucidating?

Sure thing! Under the cut:

Here’s the ABA’s info on tongue-tie and upper-lip-tie (I can’t sing the ABA’s praises highly enough. Seriously. SERIOUSLY).

Basically, the baby may have a strip of connecting skin between their tongue and the floor of their mouth. We all have that, to differing degrees, but some kids have it to the point where they can’t stick their tongue out of their mouth at all. When breastfeeding, kids need to put their tongues over their bottom gum, outside their mouth. So, when a child has a tongue-tie the mother’s nipple gets grazed, sometimes blistered, by the baby’s desperation to feed. Considering that the breast is already a sensitive area, it is usually INCREDIBLY painful. Thankfully, tongue-tie and upper-lip-tie are fairly rare. Most early breastfeeding problems stem from a bad attachment, and are easily fixed with practice.

I am a mad researcher by nature, so when it came to feeding my baby, I did my research! I know a hell of a lot about BFing now. If there are people who want good resources, I am more than happy to help you! Drop me a line! 

(no, the Dwarfling didn’t have a tongue-tie, for anybody who is curious. However, I have very low blood pressure, and discovered the hard way about vasospasm. It was Not Fun. Even the shower became a rite of torture! But that was a temporary thing that lasted maybe three months, and we got a BF consultant to help us who was super nice. We are an expert team these days, me and the kiddo! All smooth sailing, and she is so healthy and happy that I am glad I persevered 🙂

so i have been a little absent over the last couple of days, just doing a mad dash onto tumblr and reblogging frantically for about half an hour, before vanishing into the ether from whence I came…

my mum is visiting. 😀

It’s fantastic to have her here, and it is AMAZING to watch her and the Dwarfling building their relationship (mum taught her to ‘high-five!’ AND IT IS THE CUTEST DAMN THING EVER). But it does mean that I don’t get a lot of time for my online life!

Love you loads, normal service resumes Monday *smooches*

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poplitealqueen:

determamfidd:

(I had to use your gift-art, poplitealqueen – I AM WEAK, I HAD TO also it may be the best thing i will ever draw)

Name: Dets 
Age: How very dare you
Nationality: Aussie
Sexuality: Bisexual
Do you have any pets?: A furry pile of creaking bones, occasionally referred to as a cat
Hobbies: Sansukh totally counts as a hobby, right?
Favorite food and drink: Yes.
Rain, snow, or sunshine?: There is always too much weather.
Morning or evening?: I WAS evening, now I’m morning (through no fault of mine tyvm).
The perfect date?: Date what is a date 
Do you want kids?: Pfft hahahaha.
What do you look forward to this year?: Seeing my girl explore her world, Sansukh stuffs, possibly being not-boiling-hot in the near future.

Tag five as many people as I want (remember to name their URLs if you record yourself talking):

 If you were searching for the perfect excuse to procrastinate – HERE IT IS, AND SAY I TAGGED YOU 🙂

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Ah! The gift art of legends Did I print it and put it up on my wall? You bet I did I do it with all fanart. 

Your little dwarfling sure likes to talk! She’s adorable. So opinionated for someone who isn’t even a year old yet, haha.

new favorite phrase: as likely as airborn bacon.

Yeaaaaaah that picture is pretty on-point for how the Dwarfling is feeling rn! (She’s nearly 9 months old! AHHH SHE’S SUCH A BIG GIRL NOW, she can babble adaba baba gaga da da dagababa all day and I will listen to it like it’s Willy Shakes i am not stupidly in love with her or anything shut me up i will talk all day)

So happy my masterpiece still pleases hahaha! and glad the ol’ ‘airborne bacon’ gets a giggle 😉

And yeah – our moggy is a verrrrry old moggy. She has just about every geriatric cat problem under the sun: feline tooth resorption, arthritis, hyperthyroidism (we give her a pill every morning and night), a heart murmur, claws that shatter instead of shed, cataracts, BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE (we are spending a lot in vet bills these last couple of years tbh)

We love her, though. She is the best-natured cat I have ever owned, and a total smoochface. She has adjusted like a star to having the Dwarfling in our lives, and still enjoys a pat and a head-skritch and a scratch out in the backyard every so often.

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(I had to use your gift-art, poplitealqueen – I AM WEAK, I HAD TO also it may be the best thing i will ever draw)

Name: Dets 
Age: How very dare you
Nationality: Aussie
Sexuality: Bisexual
Do you have any pets?: A furry pile of creaking bones, occasionally referred to as a cat
Hobbies: Sansukh totally counts as a hobby, right?
Favorite food and drink: Yes.
Rain, snow, or sunshine?: There is always too much weather.
Morning or evening?: I WAS evening, now I’m morning (through no fault of mine tyvm).
The perfect date?: Date what is a date 
Do you want kids?: Pfft hahahaha.
What do you look forward to this year?: Seeing my girl explore her world, Sansukh stuffs, possibly being not-boiling-hot in the near future.

Tag five as many people as I want (remember to name their URLs if you record yourself talking):

 If you were searching for the perfect excuse to procrastinate – HERE IT IS, AND SAY I TAGGED YOU 🙂

A while ago I was thinking about how great it would be to have written something as well-received as Sansûkh. However the more I think about it, the more I’ve come to realise how much pressure you must feel to update consistently and stay active online. I just want you to know that you are totally supported by the whole Sansûkh fanbase. I’m sure that no one would ever mind if you ever felt the need to take a break. x

Oh, Nonnie, thank you. You are tremendously kind. Really – thank you so much.

I am actually hugely fortunate in my friends here on tumblr. I would love to meet you all, tbh, I wish I didn’t live on the arse-end of the world. But I did take a break, a big one! I took nearly four months off writing after the Dwarfling was born, and everyone was fantastically supportive. Since then, I update sporadically as time allows, and that has been accepted with such grace and generosity, I can’t even describe. I can’t commit to a schedule to save my life, and still everyone is very kind and very understanding and just so incredibly beautiful. 

Even when I have to take a few days of off-time (I usually have family staying over, which means I am forced to be social boo hiss), it has never been an issue. 

I am just feeling a lot of love for you all rn ❤