Everyone around here needs to acknowledge a very important thing: there is a person behind that blog you’re following. That person has a life, responsibilities, problems, good days and bad days, like everyone else. They feel, they hurt, they laugh and cry. So think twice before getting upset over them not answering your ask, or not being able to hold a conversation some of the days, or for not being happy-go-lucky every second of the day. They’re all allowed to be human, to post whatever they feel like posting on their blog, to have opinions and not have their ask be flooded with hate after posting their thoughts here. THEY ARE A PERSON. THEY HAVE FEELINGS THAT CAN GET HURT. Please acknowledge that.
Awwww, Nonnie – I’m sorry I’ve skipped some of your asks!
ah, hate, well – I mostly respond once, and if they come back I block ‘em. I’m not sure why tbh? Could be that it’s pure masochism on my part (or a desire to defend myself – I used to just meekly take it, but now i think ‘why should I?’). I could always look up their IP address – I have statcounter tracking on my askbox – but I only do that in extreme cases, really. Mostly these people seem to be concerned with turning me into someone I am not, or making me behave or write or characterise the way they think i should. I say ‘No’ and then go on my merry way. Mostly!
(you made me giggle so much, hee! Thank you for the laugh!)
I’m more concerned with the fact that I haven’t been able to get to your asks, Nonnie! I try and answer as many as I can. I am always very grateful and touched that someone has taken the time to tell me their ideas and headcanons, and always HUGELY appreciative and so so thankful when someone takes the trouble to tell me they like my writing.
Sometimes just too much time passes, and the message gets lost in the murky depths of the inbox hahaha. Sometimes I just don’t have an answer and flail helplessly at it! Sometimes I let it go too long, and I’m a bit embarrassed to answer it after it’s dragged out all that time. Sometimes I have two or more asks about the same thing, or I have answered it before. Sometimes it’s on a subject that is a MASSIVE spoiler! Sometimes I want to think about it some more – I get quite a few questions that I simply don’t have an answer to, but after a bit of research I might be able to put something together. So, there’s a few reasons why!
Additionally, sometimes the Dwarfling interrupts nowadays!! She is always trying to get to the tappy-box. Silly mummy, tap-tap-tapping away!
EDIT: I just realised – I do have at least one possible reason. I tend to work things out by writing or speaking about them. It’s something that works for me: I learned a long time ago that holding things in and stewing was a very unhealthy thing for me. I am a worrier and a brooder by nature, lol. And so, if I can calmly defend myself against bullshit, I tend to feel a lot less tense and unhappy about the whole situation. Because I have worked through it. Ish? Idk. That’s a possibility, anyway.
I didn’t realise this tag was actually a thing until now, but imagine if we all used it. The tag would be a thing of beauty and suffering
The cast has reblogging everyone’s reactions with that tag ahaha foxinsocksinabox
That’s the tag I use after I post a chapter!! bc my inbox turns into a flood of screaming usually hahahaha
that fandom feel when an angry post goes around regarding the same topic as a silly joke you made a couple of weeks ago, and you’re not sure if it’s aimed at you or not bc you have the observation skills of a cooked prawn
That’s the sort of thing, yeah lol! I prefer LBD tho, bc it doesn’t necessarily assume sexual activity for that character. So it’s a little more ace-ships-friendly 🙂
Right, so, first and foremost: y’all should know that this is about as close as I ever get to an angry screed! But it’s an angry screed in the name of positivity, so that’s something, right?
Here’s the deal: today I saw a post–a series of posts, in fact–positing that the overall quality of the work available at the Ao3 was decreasing, and arguing that there had been at one point a mission of “quality control” at that archive (which, for the record, there never was). I am not linking to those posts, because more capable and knowledgeable people than I have already responded to them, and because, at the end of the day, those posts aren’t really what this post is about. The post is about the increase I’ve seen in comments like this, about the folks I see mocking “badfic,” about the sense of betrayal people seem to feel if a piece of fanfiction is not up to their individual standards, about the rather shocking volume of people who seem to have come to the conclusion that fandom exists for their personal pleasure. Which, don’t get me wrong–fandom does exist for the pleasure of fans. But it’s a collective thing, with each individual contributing to the whole, and the degree to which that knowledge seems to have slipped–along with the remembrance of the fact that every handle represents a living, breathing human being whose importance is not hinged on the quality of their fanworks–is starting to freak me out.
How did I genuinely not know this existed? I just watched all three episodes back-to-back. What an AMAZING project, what an incredible thing to have as a part of our fandom!
Sheila is a newly single mom in the middle of a nasty divorce; Jeremy is a teenage child actor who is ready to move on from show business and his manager…who happens to be his mother.
This unlikely pairing has one thing in common…they love fan fiction, specifically Hobbit fan fiction.
And the smuttier the better.
When Sheila needs help paying the rent and Jeremy needs a new place to live, moving in together seems like the logical solution. They’ll be able to escape their real-life issues, plus have loads of time to work on winning the “Hobbit for All Seasons” online writing competition.
What could go wrong?
Series One is complete. But they need some funding to produce a second series, and hot damn do I want more. i love sheila i adore her omfg you precious exploding cinnamon roll
Here’s the kickstarter! There’s 11 days to go, and they’re nearly half-way to the goal of $10K.
Fans creating stories for and about fans, ladies and jellyspoons – how brilliant is that!!
You don’t have the ego problems that usually lead to it being used as a pejorative, so embrace it!
I feel these comments go together somehow….:D
BNF can be used pejoratively to imply that the person in question is putting on airs, getting above themselves, or being arrogant/egotistical; it can also subtly refer to someone who is not above encouraging bad behavior on the part of their followers. Some BNFs in the early days of LJ, and really reaching as far back as the old usenet days, could have some pretty problematic behaviors that inspired this perception. People who have large readerships now still sometimes get tarred with that brush, whether they engage in those behaviors or not – and sometimes if they engage in perfectly normal behavior that reads to outsiders like egotism because of the context it’s in. I honestly think most BNFs don’t have the BNF Problem, their awkwardness is just magnified by the size of their readership.
For example, most people online form friendships, and often form small inner communities of friends with shared in-jokes, catchphrases, and general experiences. That’s normal human behavior, having friends, having a circle of friends. But when you’re a BNF, and people want to enter your circle of friends because you have prestige or the attention of a lot of people or for whatever reason, that person’s totally normal friendships can look to outsiders like a clique or even a conspiracy. I’ve been accused of having a clique; no, what I have is friends. If a BNF is quiet because they’re shy, it can be seen as aloofness; if they have a disagreement with someone, it can be seen as an attack. Because of an external perception, that I have a clique and I’m king of it (which is laughably untrue), I can be seen as one of “those” BNFs, the kind who gathers followers and then holds merciless sway over them.
The stakes are just higher – you get more attention, your work gets more attention, and when you make a mistake, you suffer for it far longer than someone else might. That’s just how it rolls; you take the good with the bad.
The truth is I’m a klutz who routinely falls over while doing yoga, I’m socially awkward enough in person that I have very few brickspace close friends, and I do what I can to get along in life, the same as everyone else. Nobody is universally liked, and of course I don’t enjoy being disliked, but I’m willing to deal with that for the pleasure the rest of my online interactions bring me.
Aw Yiss 