Is Balinith autistic or in the spectrum?

Yup! From the notes of Chapter 30:

Balin Dwalinul – the second of the three sons of Orla Longaxe, General of Erebor, and Dwalin, Field-Marshal of Erebor. Young Balin is only 21 years of age at the time of the War of the Ring. Balin has Aspergers, and though Dwarven society is accommodating of the needs of neuroatypical people, the siege is creating situations which are uncomfortable or even painful for someone with Aspergers, such as continual loud noises, disruptions to normal routine, and an atmosphere of constant high tension.

Balinith is an intensely curious, easily bored little fellow, with a nicely witty way of puncturing Gimizh’s more idiotic notions. For more about my smol “FOR SCIENCE!!!” baby, check out my balinith tag here!

After TDOV

zafirozorro:

So now that it is the day after Trans Day of Visibility, I am hoping fellow cis people will actually make more than just cosmetic efforts to be tolerant.

If you don’t know how you can help, pretty much every struggling trans person I ever met has a PayPal you can donate to.

If you are broke or unable, keeping other cis people accountable, make a fucking effort to use/respect pronouns, make your spaces (work, school, bathroom, home) safe and comfortable for trans people especially your friends.

Keep your comments/criticism about clothes, gender, make up, passing, sex work, respectability, gatekeeping etc to your fucking self.

If you are an artist, writer, poet etc… Representation goes a long way. Not to have them suffer, or be in pain or struggle or die but to include them as much as you would someone who was cis, as a complex character.

If you still don’t know what to do listen to a trans person when they say what they need, do the work to make sure they are heard. Especially trans women of color, especially especially especially black trans women.

poesiariptide:

A recent incident that left me really rattled later set me thinking, and that led to this idea- being dead and able to watch
the world of the living doesn’t always turn out in your favour, not even when
you’re someone with the genius of Narvi. In fact, especially not then. Featuring aro!Narvi, set in Sansukh-verse. 

I do not own any of the named characters, Haban belongs to @determamfidd and everyone else belongs to JRR Tolkien (though I’ve followed Dets’ characterisation and portrayal of them). 

Keep reading

ohhhhhh rippy

i love it, i love it so much, and ohhh her rage is perfection, whaddaya mean this isn’t my Narvi, that’s her rage!!! THIS IS AMAZING, thank you so so much! *hugs*

Mahal is such a good dad ❤

hey dets!! I wanted to ask you if you knew of some good tolkien fanfictions with trans characters, aside from your Sansukh and Azhar??

Hey Nonnie! I have done my best – there’s a lot more than this, I know, but for some reason my google-fu doesn’t want to co-operate with me tonight. So if anyone wishes to reblog and add some more onto the end and help the Nonnie out, that would be greatly appreciated!  

(I will first say, and I will do so every time: I am cis. I have created and I write trans characters (and my word, was I ever asked about it!!!) but it would be amazingly disrespectful and arrogant of me to write about being trans or about trans issues. And so, that is why I do not.

Many of these authors are trans or nonbinary, and can write with personal understanding and experience about being trans and about trans issues. I recommend their work wholeheartedly.)


I must first rec all the fic of @thorinsmut! Also everything by @asparklethatisblue (check out The Only Thing I Ask) and also 

orphan_account! And finally – check out the work of @dain-mothafocka (unfinished, but OH SO GOOOOOOD).

(pssst – Also, the Must-See person for recs is @baggvinshield – check out her amazing reclists!)

Here’s the search for trans characters for The Hobbit on AO3, and here’s the one for LOTR.

Now, for a couple of fics I have read and remember enjoying:

Green Silk and Gold Lace by Mozzarella (transwoman Bilbo) 

This Feeling That Remains by khazadqueen (ama)

A Tale of Two Drivers by mage_girl

Gimli’s Secret by thudworm

The liveblogs: @reclaimeddurin and @quiterespectablyyours (nonbinary Kili!)


Again, anybody out there with any recs for the lovely Nonnie, please don’t hesitate to add them onto this post! Thank you so much!

givergirl:

h0odrich:

agaywithwords:

h0odrich:

fratbru:

h0odrich:

I could probably hit up ye olde googleheim for this but I wonder how they chose the order for LGBTQIA like … what type of alphabet

have you seen the white gays reorganize it to have the G first lmao

no but not like it would change anything anyway that’s basically how it is

This is something I know a lot about, so pardon me for this…

Prior to the Stonewall Riots, even activist groups tended to default toward some variation of the word “homosexual” in their titles. Until the slang term “gay” began to catch on in the 60s.

So in the 70s, it was simply the “gay liberation movement” – at a time “gay” (sort of) functioned as a catchall for all sexual and gender minorities. It was thought of as an umbrella term, even if it wasn’t. 

As time passed, because lesbians felt that they were (and they actually were) excluded in many cases from the movement, “gay and lesbian” became commonplace throughout the 80s and into the 90s. 

“Gay and lesbian” is still on the founding documents of many organizations that sprang up in the post-AIDS-crisis era of Human Rights Campaign-style activism that was primarily concerned with visibility politics and increasingly focused on the concerns of white, middle-to-upper class assimilationist queers (the “we’re your doctor, your lawyer, your neighbor, your cousin, and we’re just like you” crowd). Examples: 

  • GLAAD (Gay and lesbian anti-defamation league)
  • The Task Force (founded as National Gay Task Force, then the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force in 1985. They started going by just “The Task Force” in the early 2000s, before officially changing their name to National LGBTQ Task Force only in 2014) 
  • NGLJA (National Gay & Lesbian Journalist Association)
  • National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce
  • PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)

But because of this assimilationist trend in the political movement and the style of activism with the most visibility, people who felt excluded began pushing back. Some advocated for better representation of bisexual and transgender people, hence GLBT began to get added to mission statements. Some, particularly nonwhite communities, rejected the terms altogether, proliferating terms like “Men who have sex with men”/MSM, and “same gender loving”/SGL or even the problematic “Down Low” (DL) into certain activist spaces. As GLBT became common in the late 90s, more groups started pushing for inclusion: Intersex (I), Asexuals (A), Questioning (Q), Queer (Q), Two Spirit (TS), etc. 

Meanwhile, some folks thought we should avoid the alphabet soup altogether and run with Queer. An umbrella term that would also encompass things like polyamory, fetishism/kink, etc., without excluding anyone.

Groups coming into play around this time tried to avoid wading into the debate altogether, thus we have organizations like “Equal Rights Nevada” “Equality Utah” “Empire State Pride Agenda” “MassEquality” “Out & Equal” and “Pride at Work.”

It was in the early 2000s that feminist and lesbian leaders convinced people to switch from GLBT to LGBT. Queer never quite caught on for activist circles and organizations, in part because it was too broad, and sometimes you need a little more specificity in your mission statement… otherwise you run the risk of getting hijacked by cisgender, straight allies intent on pushing an oppression narrative about how they’re discriminated against for liking to get spanked. But, probably more importantly, a lot of people of an aging generation had extremely bad connotations around the word and weren’t interested in reclaiming it. Anyone over the current age of 45 or so probably grew up being bullied under the word queer. Queer was too controversial for risk-averse organizations depending on the fundraising support of older gay men and women. 

So by the time I was in college (late 90s), GLB or GLBT was the default for most.

I remember the debate around changing GLBT to LGBT (or even TBLG) very well. I worked in the queer press at the time (2000-2005). It made a lot of people very mad. It still makes some people mad. But the idea was to emphasize that gay men were not primary. It was a feminist thing. Sadly, the argument for TBLG (which argued that we name them in order of most oppressed and/or least visible) never really caught on beyond a few academics and some hardcore activists. 

We made the editorial decision in 2001 to officially switch to LGBT unless quoting someone or as part of a proper name (e.g. the title of an organization). So did many other papers. GLAAD pushed this standard into the mainstream press. It caught on.

Most groups/editorial boards/journalists/activists put their foot down around the lengthy alphabet soup stopping at 4 – although Q, I and A are sometimes added depending on the group. Whether A stands for asexual or ally and whether Q stands for queer or questioning all depends on the group in question.

As far as I can tell, LGBT is the settled default. I’m not aware of any concentrated political push to move on and change it now, at least not like there was in the late 90s and early 2000s. Although it could happen. I would welcome it. Language, and how we frame our movement, must evolve.

Sorry, I know I wasn’t asked, but I wanted to throw some history out there. 

very interesting thank u for sharing!!!!!

This is amazing! Thank you!

re: your answer about Ones & having ace Balin & aroace Nori and Dori, that makes me so happy. can there be a character in Sansukh who is aro and not ace, too? since ace =/= aro

I’m glad, Nonnie! I am pretty passionate about having a range of people, and I try to make the ace characters all very different and all full of life. 

(btw Frerin is totally akoiromantic)

There certainly can be an aro character who is not ace! Dang, I really need to do better on this front. I will do some more reading, and respectfully ask people about their experiences. Hopefully some of my aro friends will have a moment to share their hopes for representation (and their pet peeves) with me. 

(btw, that is an open invitation, too. If you yourself would like to talk to me about this, Nonnie, I would be hugely honoured and grateful. You can remain on anon, and I will not publish publically. But there’s no obligation at all: please don’t feel pressured, either!) 

I have an idea of who the character could be already. Bear with me: they’ll appear!

So, quick question: In Sansukh, which of the dwarves of the Company (save Dori) are without their ones? Because i remember Balin was interested in an asexual relationship, and all Nori said was that he “prefers to take care of it on his own,” implying that he is somewhere on the asexual scale as well. But nowhere is there confirmation that they have no Ones, and are, essentially, “solitaries”

Okay, here’s a thing though: No soulmates in Sansukh.

Here’s why. 

The fanon term ‘One’ has been widely used in the Hobbit fandom to describe a fated, pre-ordained, pre-destined match between two people, chosen for them by a third party (usually Aule), without any input from those involved. Often it’s implied that these people were destined for each other from birth or even before, which for me is an uncomfortable thought. Babies can’t choose, it’s not their choice, it’s someone else’s choice. I don’t find that romantic: I consider it more along the lines of an arranged marriage. I got creeped out by the lack of free will and lack of choice implied in this arrangement. And so I use the term sliiiightly differently.

Tolkien says (I’m paraphrasing, but still) that a Dwarf will only love once. If they can’t be with the one they love, then they devote their life to their work instead. So I use the term ‘One’ to mean “one that this Dwarf loves.”

So, there’s no real reason for there to be confirmation of fated Ones or no Ones. People are either romantic or not, sexual or not, and this informs their attractions and decisions in love, just as for any person in our own world. Free will, baby. 

Many amazing and engaging fics use the term ‘One’ to mean pre-selected soulmate, and I have enjoyed those stories, and even recced them. I am not casting aspersions upon those stories or those writers. I am trying to explain my thought process, and what led me to steer clear of a widely-known fanon notion.

Balin is homoromantic ace, btw, and was in a past relationship with Nali which failed (but they remain friends). Nori is aroace, as is Dori. The other Aces of the Company in my fic are our friends Oin and Fili. 

(YES I MADE UP MY MIND, HE IS DEMIROMANTIC ACE.)

Hey! I was just wondering why you chose to make Narvi female? I’m not criticising you – I can no longer think of her as anything but female after Sansukh :P – but the LOTR appendices state that Dis was the only female dwarf whose name was shared in their histories, and that was because of the bravery of Fili and Kili. So, I was wondering – since Narvi is named, shouldn’t that mean that she was male according to Tolkien? Eh, just curious :P

I’m glad you like the notion, Nonnie! Here’s where I mention how the idea struck me. There is no gender-indicative pronoun used for Narvi in LOTR – though there may be one used elsewhere, i can’t remember and don’t really care, and here’s why:

I love Middle-Earth, and Tolkien’s incredible work, and especially Dwarves, okay, but I try always to be aware and acknowledge that Tolkien himself held catholic and patriarchal ideas about the place of women, and he was particularly repressive/dismissive when describing the place of women in his fantasy Dwarf society. As amazing as his achievements are, Tolkien failed women and girls back then. He absolutely failed to give equal – or even sufficient – representation. Women characters with spoken lines in LOTR can barely even be counted on two hands. There are NONE IN THE HOBBIT AT ALL. I can try and do something to change that: that’s the fun thing about transformative fanfic.

I am pretty sure if you re-read the above message you sent to me, you could pick out at least three reasons why I would write Narvi as a woman – not least of which is that there are quite enough men in this bloody universe already.

And so, yeah… I don’t really care if she ‘should’ be yet another man. She’s a woman to me – an impatient, sardonic, slightly haughty, incomparably genius black woman.  

And tbh, my dearest Professor Tolkien, fuck the idea that women only matter to history because of the actions of their sons.

peggaboo-draws:

Reads chapter 40 of Sansukh + sees this post = Instant OTP apparently ^^

omfg BOO

AHHHHH I LOVE THEM YESSSSS ❤

Merilin is PERFECTION ITSELF here, alasdgflahsdlaksjdhflsadfjakshdasjdhfa and SELGA’S HAIR HER FACE HER EVERYTHINGGGG you know Merilin is just WHOA about that amazing hair

I love the colours! Like Spring and Autumn! And the touch of light on both of them, and the looks on their faces…! Selga is all “HOW DARE SHE BE HOT DAMMIT I AM SO SCREWED” and Merilin all, “i could spend an Age of this world just kissing her” and oh

Booooooo thank you SO SO SO MUCH! They’re absolutely WONDERFUL – and so are you!! ❤ *hugs and hugs and huuuuuUUUGS*

For the amazing Dets

tehri:

Thank you.

Thank you for writing Sansûkh. Thank you for portraying Thorin so well. Thank you for accurately portraying someone struggling with depression, anxiety, self-loathing and extremely likely PTSD.

Thank you for this.

Thank you for showing that it gets easier to live with it. Thank you for showing that despite the large amount of time he spent working on this, he is still not done. Thank you for showing that he has the support and love of so many. Thank you for showing that no one loves him any less for all his flaws.

Thank you for all of this.

It helps. You have no idea how much it helps to see someone actually portraying Thorin this way, to make him face his demons and not instantly defeat them. To make him very slowly, day by day, starting to learn to live with them and accept them as part of him, and to make him slowly figure out how to change himself and start to love himself.

It helps because depression and self-loathing have both been big parts of my life. It helps because you show that it DOES get better, for all that it takes time. It helps because you don’t say that it goes away instantly, that it’s a very long and slow process. Because god knows I’ve been frustrated beyond belief with myself and my inability to just walk away from my problems as neurotypicals seem to think that one should be able to.

Thank you.

I’m crying here. Proper real wet tears. 

Thank you, Teh. I can’t ever ever ever ever tell you how much this means to me. I can’t tell you how incredibly INCREDIBLY important this is to me, and how much it affects me down to my bones, to hear that you feel the same way and are struggling through the same shit. That because I wrote Thorin in this way – as a hero sure, BUT as a hero who lives and must come to terms with depression, phenomenal self-esteem and identity issues, anxiety, intrusive thoughts (and yeah definitely PTSD) – I have helped. 

Seriously, I am crying. Blotchy red-faced Dets with a runny nose. 

Thank you, most wonderful Hobbit Owl. Thank you so very, very much. *hugs for a zillion years*