Oh christ, I am so sorry you lived through that, Nonnie. All my love and respect to you. You are strong to have come through that. I have not been in such a relationship, but I have been there for people who have. I can understand why such a concept raises serious alarm bells for you.
When it comes to this ship, I honestly? Didn’t know that there were official ages. Are these the actor’s ages? IDK, I am so not across this. I truly thought that Finn and Rey were in their 20s, and Poe in his early 30′s. Daisy Ridley looks like she’s in her 20s, to me.
I have mentioned before that my fave iteration of this OT3 is with ace!rey in a queerplatonic relationship with Finn and Poe – with adventures and new jedi training and rebel business and belonging and emotional support and cooking with real food and OMFG WHAT IS THIS SNOW AND RAIN STUFF WOOOOW. I truly believe, too, from what we have seen of the characters, that neither Rey or Finn would allow the oldest member of the triad to coerce or manipulate them. I also think that Rey is very very capable of looking out for herself.
(bear in mind that the above is referring to ‘what we have seen of the characters’ – bc there is a lot more “fun” to come from these films, I am sure.)
I do sympathise with your feelings though. I can only suggest you block the tag ‘jedistormpilot’ as I know I am far from the only person who has thought, ‘they’re SO CUTE’.