Like, 90% of infomercial style products were designed by/for disabled people, but you wouldn’t know that, because there is no viable market for them. THey have to be marketted and sold to abled people just so that any money can be made of off them and so the people who actually need them will have access.
I think snuggies are the one example almost everyone knows. They were invented for wheelchair users (Do you have any idea how hard it is to get a coat on and off of someone in a wheelchair? Cause it’s PRETTY FUCKIN HARD.) But now everyone just acts like they’re some ~quirky, white people thing~ and not A PRODUCT DESIGNED TO MAKE PEOPLES DAY TO DAY LIVES 10000X EASIER.
But if at any point you were to take your head out of your own ass and go “Hey, who would a product like this benefit,” that would be really cool.
This makes informational make so much sense now.
Like… of course there’s no reason for that guy to knock over that bowl of chips. However, the person it was actually designed for has constant hand tremors that would make this pretty rad, but since we don’t want to show that in a commercial, here’s an able bodied guy who can’t remember how gravity works.
Shit. Those commercials suddenly get a lot less funny when you realize it’s pretty much just people ineptly trying to mimic disability.
I spent years wholeheartedly believing these four words.
This phrase consumed my thoughts to the point where I never thought I would be good enough until I could stop eating for good.
And I know I am not the only one.
If you have ever felt this way – or you feel that way now – just take a moment to remind yourself of two things:
1. PRETTY GIRLS DO EAT.
2. BEING PRETTY IS NOT THE ONLY VALUE YOU HAVE AS A WOMAN
Im not the first person to point these things out. And I sure as hell hope I am not the last. But I hope one day when you google “pretty girls eat” that you see something different.
One day I want little girls to google “pretty girls eat” and see pictures of beautiful women like this.
Women who are not only beautiful, but so much more. (and if you follow them you KNOW that they all eat!)
Fuck “pretty girls don’t eat” Because we do. And we should remind each other of that until every lost girl who has had the misfortune of believing such a terrible lie can be shown the truth:
PRETTY GIRLS EAT.
HEALTHY girls eat.
STRONG girls eat.
DETERMINED girls eat.
CONFIDENT girls eat.
SMART girls eat.
HAPPY girls eat.
PRETTY. GIRLS. EAT.
OMG I NEVER SAW THIS WTF THIS IS BEAUTIFUL
Brb crying. I wish something like this would have been around when I was dealing with eating disorders. This is beautiful.
the funny thing abt being homeless is that you can have an income, score temp jobs, make money and still be stuck as fuck in homelessness. its hard to rent an apartment or get consistent income (or a job with health benefits) when you have spotty, erratic work history and big gaping…
i’m tired of having to misgender myself for paperwork
Actually, they’re asking what gender were you born with. This helps them to know what diseases and sicknesses you are most likely prone to get~! Some of these can be very lethal or serious, however, and so it is much better to tell them the information. It would be okay to write your preferred gender in a little note beside your answer, but please, please do tell them what you were born as!
I am concerned for everyone’s safety who does this u-u~<3
Thank you for listening, and I hope you consider this~~~! c:
This is the first time I’ve seen someone make this correction without being rude or condescending so thank you friend
@homestuckitten i appreciate you trying to defend binarist forms but really. basically everything youve said is incorrect and doing the whole uwu~~~~ thing is actually condescending and infantalising
“gender you were born with” is a very problematic phrase. ppl arent born with a gender; infants have no concept of gender identity and it implies that every trans person’s gender has changed which may not be the case (although some trans ppl view that as being their situation which is fine, but isnt a catch-all).
if it means to ask ‘the gender you were assigned at birth’. there are a lot of other ways of phrasing it that arent inherently transphobic and generally problematic – referring to it as ‘gender assigned at birth’ is a very easy change from simply ‘gender’. if someone asks my gender, im going to say the gender i identify as. im lucky in some respects bc my gender is binary enough that i can feel mostly comfortable in ticking one binary box. for a lot of other nonbinary people this isnt the case. if theyre going to ask ‘gender’ they should give options other than male or female.
also?? wrt to trans people whove undergone medical transition, what relevance does their assigned gender have? if “biological sex” is based on the five main aspects (chromosomes, hormones, genitals, secondary sex characteristics, and reproductive organs) then how do you classify trans people who have undergone all medical transition available? currently it’s impossible to change chromosomes but the other four can be changed through surgery and hormone replacement therapy. at that point, why does someones assigned gender matter? speaking purely from a medical side, what would matter would be these five aspects so if thats what theyre interested in, they need to actually ask for that.
this is all only taking into account medical paperwork. in any other area, asking for assigned gender is not only illegal but completely irrelevant. so yeah forms really shouldnt be restricted to just male and female.
I have to pick male or female in order to get a fucking library card. I have to pick male or female in order to sign up for academic mailing lists. I have to pick male or female to study at my university. I have to pick male or female to buy tickets to a concert.
Even for medical shit my actual gender will give a dr way more information than my assigned gender and if they want more detail THEY CAN ASK
like the problem with the tumblr community is that no one is allowed to safely fuck up
if i was my uneducated ignorant little 14 year old self y’all would have ripped me a new one and probably scarred me for life
and that’s so scary tbh, that a community of adults would and DO witch hunt and harass minors over things they’re being children about
How to gently acknowledge and inform a person:
Check their blog/content/about me. How old is this person? If they are still in HS/under 18, remember that this person is a minor and needs guidance, not chastising.
Second, look at a little bit of their tumblr. Are they going through serious mental health struggles(Depression/suicide/etc)? Please take this into account when formulating your response.
Finally, evaluate why you follow this person to begin with. Now, if you are 19 and following a 17 year old, then you are within the same age bracket and can talk to this person as if you are talking to a peer. 12/13/14/15 year olds are still formulating their opinions of the world, and you being nasty to them isn’t going to help inform their opinion. So why do you follow a 13 year old? Would you hang out with this person IRL if you two were in the same location? Would it be weird(mentally and physically) for you to hang out with this person? If the answer is yes, unfollow their blog and step away from the situation.
NOW, here is how you formulate a PRIVATE ASK OR FAN MAIL to someone who has said or done something problematic. Shaming them publicly for ignorance/limited world view is a great way to close someone off or harass them, and you don’t want to do either of these things. Online bullying can take on many forms, and being an adult harassing a young teenager adds to online culture problems
“Hey! I noticed that you reblogged (x). I wanted to let you know that this is really hurtful to (x) group, and it is offensive because of (x) reason. I just wanted to let you know because you may not have known. Thank you for receiving this message and listening”
This points out what is wrong, why it is wrong, and does not demand anything of the person you are sending this message to
And then you step away. Do not send this person 20 asks. Do not threaten them. STEP AWAY.
If they engage, respond, or ask further questions, answer them kindly. If they don’t respond, don’t continue to engage.
REMEMBER: you were 14 once too. You said and did things that you cringe at now. You said and did things that were problematic. Getting yelled at was not what you needed. You grew up, you learned, you changed. Let others do the same.
“The more chances you give someone the less respect they’ll start to have for you. They’ll begin to ignore the standards that you’ve set because they’ll know another chance will always be given. They’re not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what you won’t walk away. They get comfortable with depending on your forgiveness.”
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Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you. (via
You don’t have the ego problems that usually lead to it being used as a pejorative, so embrace it!
I feel these comments go together somehow….:D
BNF can be used pejoratively to imply that the person in question is putting on airs, getting above themselves, or being arrogant/egotistical; it can also subtly refer to someone who is not above encouraging bad behavior on the part of their followers. Some BNFs in the early days of LJ, and really reaching as far back as the old usenet days, could have some pretty problematic behaviors that inspired this perception. People who have large readerships now still sometimes get tarred with that brush, whether they engage in those behaviors or not – and sometimes if they engage in perfectly normal behavior that reads to outsiders like egotism because of the context it’s in. I honestly think most BNFs don’t have the BNF Problem, their awkwardness is just magnified by the size of their readership.
For example, most people online form friendships, and often form small inner communities of friends with shared in-jokes, catchphrases, and general experiences. That’s normal human behavior, having friends, having a circle of friends. But when you’re a BNF, and people want to enter your circle of friends because you have prestige or the attention of a lot of people or for whatever reason, that person’s totally normal friendships can look to outsiders like a clique or even a conspiracy. I’ve been accused of having a clique; no, what I have is friends. If a BNF is quiet because they’re shy, it can be seen as aloofness; if they have a disagreement with someone, it can be seen as an attack. Because of an external perception, that I have a clique and I’m king of it (which is laughably untrue), I can be seen as one of “those” BNFs, the kind who gathers followers and then holds merciless sway over them.
The stakes are just higher – you get more attention, your work gets more attention, and when you make a mistake, you suffer for it far longer than someone else might. That’s just how it rolls; you take the good with the bad.
The truth is I’m a klutz who routinely falls over while doing yoga, I’m socially awkward enough in person that I have very few brickspace close friends, and I do what I can to get along in life, the same as everyone else. Nobody is universally liked, and of course I don’t enjoy being disliked, but I’m willing to deal with that for the pleasure the rest of my online interactions bring me.
Aw Yiss 