Hmm. No, none of them are married, you’re right.
So, I am writing Elves as a slightly different kettle of fish to Dwarves. From Tolkien’s writings, it appears that Elves can all be considered demisexual to varying degrees. Sex can ONLY occur when love is present, and sex itself is the act of marriage.
Laindawar is very, VERY introverted. He has only really ever been close to one person: his brother Laerophen, to be frank. He likes his solitude. He is often mistaken for aloof, because he simply prefers his own company. He has never fallen in love, and doesn’t want or expect to.
Laerophen wouldn’t be averse to falling in love one day, but he is far beyond the age when an Elf customarily finds their love. It’s not unheard of for an older Elf to find love, but Laerophen doesn’t think it likely.
Legolas is also beyond the age when Elves are most likely to settle down. He was quite resigned to it, and was ready to be the Prince his father expected him to be.
WHOOPS 😉
Thranduil would have terribly mixed feelings over his sons’ finding a partner. His own experience has been one of great joy followed by terrible loss, and he would NEVER want that for his sons. In the films he warns Tauriel away from Legolas out of a sense of protectiveness rather than classism against ‘lowly Silvan Elves’, to my mind (though of course the classism is a lovely excuse to use – Thranduil doesn’t easily reveal his true feelings without a LOT of prompting or provocation).
So, a bit rambly, but there’s some of my thoughts, Nonnie!


