Hi Nonnie. *hugs*

If you were my child, I would tell you this:

This man lied to you. He is keeping you a secret. He has no compunction about cheating. He is dishonest in his relationships. He makes you uneasy. You have a HUGE age imbalance that keeps him at an advantage over you. 

This doesn’t sound healthy, just from this little snapshot that you’ve given me. It sounds manipulative, and dishonest. 

I would leave. Find a relationship with someone who doesn’t make me their naughty young thing on the side. Someone who cares enough to be honest with me. 

This would most certainly feel awful, Nonnie. I know it must be very hard: I am sending you all my good thoughts and strength. You deserve more than this, I promise you. You do not need to hold onto a situation that is dishonest and uncomfortable. You can find a relationship that truly makes you happy, one where you are valued and equal and loved, openly and proudly.